Tamara’s Question: I’m really frustrated right now. I’m a bridesmaid in my boyfriend’s sister’s wedding, and she expects us to do A LOT. I love her but I’m at the end of my rope. We had to buy a hideous lime green bridesmaid’s dress for $250 and silver shoes for $68. Now she wants us to buy matching accessories that will cost us $84 for a necklace, bracelet, and earrings. The money is really starting to add up, and I can’t afford to get these accessories. Plus she expects each of us to spend almost every weekend doing stuff for her wedding. I do have a life, and I’m about to pull out my hair. Her wedding isn’t until March and I really can’t take this for six more months. What should I do?
April’s Answer: Brides can easily fall into the trap of not realizing how much they’re expecting of their loved ones. I would just have an adult, considerate discussion with her. Let her know that you are so excited to be a part of her wedding, but the financial expectations are more than you can handle. Tell her that you enjoy helping her out with wedding tasks – let her know which ones you definitely want to be a part of – and tell her that you wish you had more time to help, but unfortunately, other things {say specific things such as work and family obligations} are overwhelming at the moment. Tell her that you’ll let her know the days that you can help out.
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